She goes on to describe some of the methods that her youth pastors would use to demonstrate the importance of remaining "pure".
"Picture this all-too-common scene in a church youth group. We all were told to spit in a cup, and when the cup contained a sufficient amount of saliva the youth pastor asked who wanted to take a drink. Of course, no one obliged. Satisfied, the youth pastor would hold up the saliva-filled cup and say that is what we would be if we didn't save ourselves for marriage. For us middle-school girls, the message was graphic, sickening, and total: if a girl can’t keep herself pure then she is not only worthless and unwanted, she also is disgusting. Not only that, but the disgusting, worthless girl had stolen something that rightfully belonged to her future husband and thrown it away to some undeserving boy."
If you would like to read more about Kendall's experiences with growing up in the purity culture please check out her original post here. to read the full version